Its already
a life fact that when a
man is in a relationship or is simply dating multiple women at the same
time, he is a player, a stud, the real dude or deal, he's got the swag, he's a pimp, he is “the man”.
Every young boys dream is to have the power to lure or entice several beautiful
women at once and keep them organized for himself alone and also for show off. Some years back I
overheard one of my uncles who had
just got married telling my male cousins to “have as many girlfriends as
you can afford”. That is an old ideaology as that trend has gone out the window
with the modern day woman
who don’t require a dinner, BIS subscription or a movie. So the new slang
should be “have as many girlfriends as you can stomach”. I've had conversations with guys who say they’ve never been the type to mess
with more than four girls at the a time (oh! pls) Not because they are morally pure, they
just didn’t have the patience for clicking over their phone and hearing, “please can you
take me to see this movie, or am on my way to your house and another calling to
say she is at his door when another lady is in the bathroom.” After all Seal
sang “it’s a man’s world” and the lady’s keep arguing it.
When I watched the
version of Jacob’s of “it’s a man’s world” on 2012 American idol the dude sold
the song to me and oh! Yeah I believed him (it’s a man’s world indeed).
If a woman is in a relationship or simply dating multiple
men at the same time, she is simply a slut and that's the end of the conversation, It’s
doesn’t even matter if she is having sex with them, to the outside world it’s
like “wow… you are sleeping around”. That’s why female invented something to
get around this it’s called “I talk to…” no woman is ever truly man free;
they’re always “talking to someone”.
A man never says that instead we’re “strafing with…” a
chick. To say “talking to” when you’re a guy sounds sisi, like you can’t seal
the deal.
To say “dating “ sounds like you’re a joke, spending money
on a chick that you’ve haven’t smashed yet.
Let’s break it down.
WOMAN
Talking to: Conversing, going out with, noting serious.
Dating: Going out with, chilling at the crib with, something
maybe there.
Seeing: That’s my boo
MAN
Trying to sleep with: Got the number still working on her
Sleeping with: Took her out, invested time.
We cool: Slept with her, may sleep with her again, but if
not it’s all good, got what I wanted.
There is this “thing” about girls. It’s just there nature
they can’t like two people the same way. A girl is “talking to” three guys and
then one of them steps up his game and she starts dating him, those other two
guys gets the shaft (arrow), I mean she would still talk to them and would
definitely keep her blossoming relationship a secret, but those other guys now
get 1 minute phone calls and it will take a few hours to reply there chat on
BBM you would notice the R but no reply meaning she has receive your chat and have
read it as well. All because she is now focus on the very one who’s winning her
heart. That’s so amazing as she is keeping these two guys around as her backup
plan (don’t put all your eggs in one basket) but mentally she has passed them
over and it’s just a matter of time before she stops answering their calls and
those guys get put on the BBM broadcast list. Although there is this feeling of excitement with the girls when they
have guys on the side who tell them sweet nonsense but it only helps them spice
up and strenghten the main relationship they are committed to.
Men they say are greedy. Even if they find a new breed that
they want to smash, those other girls don’t go anywhere because they still want
to keep smashing them. If anything, they get more confident. My cousin confessed one time that he had way
more sex when he had a girlfriend than the times when he was single… (imagine
that!) apparently when a guy is in a relationship he is very comfortable as his
girlfriend is at his beck and call for sex so he doesn’t hold back when talking
to other girls.
A guy in a relationship is doing triple summersaults with
safety net, he is fearless. It’s interesting really, because now you can talk
to the others girls anyhow you want, tell them you’re not taking them out, call
them when it’s convenient for him and ignore their calls at will because he is
some pretty boy with loads to show for himself and he doesn’t care either. And
you would think a woman would be like “to hell with him” but they don’t for the
part. Women like assholes that
give them the challenge, they may not know why you’re being a douche
bag, but it’s exciting as it’s turning them on. That’s why it’s hard for most
guys to let them go even if they are starting to catch feelings for their main
chick. It’s like telling a guy you can have your main chick that you can hang
out with all the time and still have your flings “chop and clean mouth” that
they can call up and they will be down for anything for such chick I guess the
guy should be ready to put up with any drama that comes with it. Of course
that’s the fun of life, I know a lot of people that still live life like that,
but eventually someone finds out and it all crumbles, but it’s a win because
you had lived the life of Hugh Hefner of play boy mansion for a few months and
are now free to start the process over again.
A girl friend of
mine once told me cheating can be very sweet and interesting but after you get
caught it turns sour as you may lose your cheating mate and if you don’t lose
the cheating mate you lose the spark that has always been there when they were
sneaking around. A girl friend
once said that "For me immediately I start imagining cheating wit someone
else, Am soo done wit the main boy friend at that point in time, as, If u have
the mind to cheat on ur man... babe dat man is not your man". This is the
extent to which girls respect their relationship. When they are done wit a
relationship, some girls use the easy exit of cheating to get out.
TO BE CONTD.....
