THE CHEATING GAMES...

Its already a life fact that when a man is in a relationship or is simply dating multiple women at the same time,  he is a player, a stud, the real dude or deal, he's got the swag, he's a pimp, he is “the man”. Every young boys dream is to have the power to lure or entice several beautiful women at once and keep them organized for himself alone and also for show off. Some years back I overheard one of my uncles who had just got married telling my male cousins to “have as many girlfriends as you can afford”. That is an old ideaology as that trend has gone out the window with the modern day woman who don’t require a dinner, BIS subscription or a movie. So the new slang should be “have as many girlfriends as you can stomach”. I've had conversations with guys who say they’ve never been the type to mess with more than four girls at the a time (oh! pls) Not because they are morally pure, they just didn’t have the patience for clicking over their phone and hearing, “please can you take me to see this movie, or am on my way to your house and another calling to say she is at his door when another lady is in the bathroom.” After all Seal sang “it’s a man’s world” and the lady’s keep arguing it.

When I watched the version of Jacob’s of “it’s a man’s world” on 2012 American idol the dude sold the song to me and oh! Yeah I believed him (it’s a man’s world indeed).

If a woman is in a relationship or simply dating multiple men at the same time, she is simply a slut and that's the end of the conversation, It’s doesn’t even matter if she is having sex with them, to the outside world it’s like “wow… you are sleeping around”. That’s why female invented something to get around this it’s called “I talk to…” no woman is ever truly man free; they’re always “talking to someone”.

A man never says that instead we’re “strafing with…” a chick. To say “talking to” when you’re a guy sounds sisi, like you can’t seal the deal.

To say “dating “ sounds like you’re a joke, spending money on a chick that you’ve haven’t smashed yet.

Let’s break it down.

WOMAN

Talking to: Conversing, going out with, noting serious.

Dating: Going out with, chilling at the crib with, something maybe there.

Seeing: That’s my boo

MAN

Trying to sleep with: Got the number still working on her

Sleeping with: Took her out, invested time.

We cool: Slept with her, may sleep with her again, but if not it’s all good, got what I wanted.

There is this “thing” about girls. It’s just there nature they can’t like two people the same way. A girl is “talking to” three guys and then one of them steps up his game and she starts dating him, those other two guys gets the shaft (arrow), I mean she would still talk to them and would definitely keep her blossoming relationship a secret, but those other guys now get 1 minute phone calls and it will take a few hours to reply there chat on BBM you would notice the R but no reply meaning she has receive your chat and have read it as well. All because she is now focus on the very one who’s winning her heart. That’s so amazing as she is keeping these two guys around as her backup plan (don’t put all your eggs in one basket) but mentally she has passed them over and it’s just a matter of time before she stops answering their calls and those guys get put on the BBM broadcast list. Although there is this feeling of excitement with the girls when they have guys on the side who tell them sweet nonsense but it only helps them spice up and strenghten the main relationship they are committed to.

Men they say are greedy. Even if they find a new breed that they want to smash, those other girls don’t go anywhere because they still want to keep smashing them. If anything, they get more confident. My cousin confessed one time that he had way more sex when he had a girlfriend than the times when he was single… (imagine that!) apparently when a guy is in a relationship he is very comfortable as his girlfriend is at his beck and call for sex so he doesn’t hold back when talking to other girls.

A guy in a relationship is doing triple summersaults with safety net, he is fearless. It’s interesting really, because now you can talk to the others girls anyhow you want, tell them you’re not taking them out, call them when it’s convenient for him and ignore their calls at will because he is some pretty boy with loads to show for himself and he doesn’t care either. And you would think a woman would be like “to hell with him” but they don’t for the part. Women like assholes that give them the challenge, they may not know why you’re being a douche bag, but it’s exciting as it’s turning them on. That’s why it’s hard for most guys to let them go even if they are starting to catch feelings for their main chick. It’s like telling a guy you can have your main chick that you can hang out with all the time and still have your flings “chop and clean mouth” that they can call up and they will be down for anything for such chick I guess the guy should be ready to put up with any drama that comes with it. Of course that’s the fun of life, I know a lot of people that still live life like that, but eventually someone finds out and it all crumbles, but it’s a win because you had lived the life of Hugh Hefner of play boy mansion for a few months and are now free to start the process over again. 

A girl friend of mine once told me cheating can be very sweet and interesting but after you get caught it turns sour as you may lose your cheating mate and if you don’t lose the cheating mate you lose the spark that has always been there when they were sneaking around. A girl friend once said that "For me immediately I start imagining cheating wit someone else, Am soo done wit the main boy friend at that point in time, as, If u have the mind to cheat on ur man... babe dat man is not your man". This is the extent to which girls respect their relationship. When they are done wit a relationship, some girls use the easy exit of cheating to get out.  

TO BE CONTD.....